I have been going running with one of my friends for a while and things are actually really cool. I’m not one of those people who enjoys running really, but there is something about doing it with a friend that makes it better. We usually just run around the neighborhood but on occasion we will take another route or go somewhere else just for a change of pace. I have found that if I get a good pair of running shorts I am much more comfortable. It’s actually like I don’t even mind jogging now. When I started I didn’t like it and I would get tired after only a few minutes, but I can now go a few kilometers and I still have energy! My friend on the other hand is much more experienced than I am and she usually goes for a few more kilometers than I do. We will finish up and I’ll head home but she will keep going.
She was telling me about some of the injuries and stuff she has had from running. One of them that I know all about are shin splints. She said she also had some problem with her arm because she wasn’t running with good posture, and another time her hip was hurting and she was worried that she had hip osteoarthritis but it ended up being something else that she was able to cure with some rehab. I think that as your ability to run distances increases the more proper form becomes necessary. So I am trying to make sure that I have good posture and everything now before I get any bad habits.
I am also trying to make some progress in my field hockey. Although I haven’t been practicing a lot it is something that I think is getting better because of the increased endurance that I have from my cardio training. I am going to start doing that again so I don’t lose any of the moves that I had. It would also be pretty entertaining if I could get my friend into field hockey with me so that I’d have someone to practice with. I don’t think she is really going to start playing but I can always see if she likes it. I don’t even think she knows much about it. But for now I am just going to stick with running and see if I can become as great as my friend.
I have been spending some time reading about different kinds of workouts recently. I would like to get a workout that involves a lot of weight lifting since that is something that I am interested in. I think that I would like to get stronger and see if I can get to the point where I can bench press more than I can now. When I go to the gym I don’t really lift weights that much although I do on occasion just to see what it is like and how I am doing but most of my workouts consist of doing some jogging and also some weight stuff that just uses my body. I am going to be pretty good at doing things like climbing a rope and also doing backward pushups which is basically when you do pushups the other way.
I’m looking at some of the supplements that I have seen advertised for people who are trying to meet their fitness goals and a few that I have been reading about include protein, which pretty much is the main one, creatine, which people use to help put on muscle and I think it is supposed to give your muscles more ATP or something like that, and then I saw one that was supposed to make you get more energy except it wasn’t caffeine, it was something else. I can’t remember what it was called. There probably are others but I don’t remember. Many of the supplements are available from different companies and I’m wondering how people are supposed to know which is best. A website I was reading was talking about garcinia cambogia and it is a pill that is supposed to help people get in shape but I didn’t really read too much of it since I don’t think that I would need that kind of product.
Oh, the best thing I have found to do at the gym is go when it is not too busy because then you don’t have to wait to use any of the stuff. It’s kind of something I like because even though I don’t mind when there are other people at the gym it tends to let you get more focused when you aren’t having to wait for anything. I can just go do my thing and get in the right area and then finish up and have a shower. The place next to where I work out has some good items for sale and I will go there when I need to get something that I realize I need.
I am up bright and early today which feels weird because I usually sleep in like a hibernating bear on my days off of work. I just have a lot going on today so I decided to get up to get a head start on everything. I am still sipping on my extra strong black coffee so I decided to go ahead and write this as it is on my list to get done. I actually have been meaning to write this for a while but it is one of those things that I never get around to doing. What usually happens is I say I’m going to do it after work but then when that time rolls around I’m so tired that I say I’ll do it the next night and then the same thing happens. I’ll probably be online for a bit longer as when I am done this I have to do a couple other things like paying bills and replying to some emails. I am also bad at that as I have some emails that are over a week old that I haven’t gotten around to replying to. Thankfully all my friends and family know about my procrastinating ways so they won’t be upset.
My main goal today will be organizing my new workspace area. I cleared out some space downstairs for it and am looking excited to working there. I needed more room than my little office which is where I was doing everything before. I bought some nice wire shelves that are going to be very helpful in getting things organized. I plan on spending a couple hours at least down there with a break or two in-between to check my email and get a snack.
My secondary goal today is to figure out what I am going to do about my car. I’m at the point now in my ownership with it that I either need to trade it in or keep it for the long haul. It needs some work and work costs money of course. I really like driving it so I’m leaning towards keeping it. I might take it to a couple dealerships to see what they offer for it and go from there. I know that I am going to stick with the same make and model (Toyota Camry) if I do get something newer. I have had two of them and they are about as reliable as they come.
My husband and I decided to get a little adventurous with our finances this year. Both of us moved into new positions at our jobs at the last three years or so and we’ve been able to put around a quarter of our total income in the bank. Now, with almost an entire year’s salary in the bank, we’re looking into investing. Richard wants to go with a more traditional approach, investing in certain companies and letting our money sit, but I’ve been looking into binary options as a way to invest. We’ve been going back and forth about how we should invest so we’re thinking about making it interesting.
Rick and I are thinking about making a friendly wager, giving ourselves each a decent sum of money to invest in each of our own ways. He’s going to invest in some traditional stocks and after reading about them at Financial Trading School, I’m going go with binary options and the winner gets to pick where we go next year on vacation. The wager will last for one year from the day we start. I’m hoping I’m right, because I could really use a trip to a tropical island this year. If Rick wins, I’m sure we’ll go out west or to the mountains again. Both of those are fun, but I’d really rather relax on a beach.
Why do I think I can win? Well, from what I’ve been seeing, binary options offer a chance for a person to take a little more risk but walk away with significantly more money than a standard investment. It’s actually a pretty interesting idea. Instead of buying a stock, you put money out there and you say “I think this stock will be at a certain level by the close of the trading day.” So, instead of letting money sit for weeks or month to earn a few percent, you invest a certain amount, say $100, and if that stock hits a certain mark by the designated time, your return is a much higher percentage. It’s almost like betting the spread in sports betting, which adds a level of excitement and challenge to investing.
All I know is that I think I can destroy Rick in our little wager and I can’t wait to be sitting in a bamboo chair listening to the sound of the ocean, getting some rays. Drinking a pina colada and living it up sounds like my idea of a perfect vacation, and I’m pretty sure I’ll be able to make it happen.
Thanks to a very fortunate series of events, I have the opportunity to travel for work this summer. I’ve wanted to leave the country and experience another culture for a long time, but things keep happening. Either someone else gets picked to go or something happens to project funding and I’m stuck out here in the good ol’ midwestern US of A like I have been for the past twenty nine years.
Well, somehow I managed to luck out and I’m off to Indonesia for three months this summer. I’ve been there for twelve weeks, but I’ll really only be working for about three. We are opening a new regional office in Bali and I just have to be there to oversee a few things. I basically have to work when no one else is working, which means I work weekends but throughout the week I am completely free.
I plan on using this time to travel to as many different places as I can. Indonesia has hundreds (if not thousands, I’m not really sure) of islands, most of which all have unique things to do such as resorts, nightclubs, restaurants, golf clubs, etc. How can I afford this? Well, my company pays for room & board + food and that works out to around $100 a day. I’ll have to pay for travel expenses but for the most part, everything should be covered.
Speaking of travel expenses, I didn’t realize that the islands are far enough I’ll really need to fly from island to island. I guess the fact that Indonesia stretches across more than 3,000 miles of ocean didn’t really register. I talked to my boss, who was over there for a month while the building was under construction, and he told me about an airline there called Citilink that he used to travel. I checked it out, and it actually looks like a pretty good deal.
Citilink is an airline that operates within Indonesia and specializes in island to island flights. He told me that their planes are pretty nice, and that the prices were very reasonable. I did a little research and it looks like they have terminals at fifteen different airports throughout Indonesia and very soon they’ll actually have three more destinations on their flight paths. They have flights going to most of the major tourist islands in Indonesia, and from what I’ve read and heard from my boss, it will be my best bet for travel in Indonesia.
It’s the time again. I pay my my cheap car insurance in Clearwater in 6 month chunks. I prefer doing it this way because then I don’t have to think about it again for another 6 months. Sure, technically you can save a little money if you pay it monthly, but since savings accounts are barely paying anything right now, it’s not really going to make a difference.
Wait, let me expand on that. I’ve been told that some companies charge you a little extra if you pay monthly. Assuming that isn’t the case (meaning your 6 month bill is the same as 6 times your monthly bill), then it’s not really going to make a difference. Sure, if you pay monthly then you can keep the extra money in your checking account and earn a little interest on it, but like I said, savings accounts aren’t even paying 1% right now, so you’re really not saving much money doing it that way. Look at it like this:
Say your monthly premium is $50. So you can pay 6 months at a time and that’s $300, or you can pay $50 a month and for the first month you will have an additional $250 in your savings account. Now let’s say you’re lucky and your bank is paying a full 1% interest on your savings account, so you’ve got that $250 which is making 1/12 of 1% (cuz remember, your bank is paying you 1% per year, not per month). One twelfth of 1% of $250 is just under $0.20. So that first month you’ll have saved 20 cents by not paying it monthly. The second month, after you make your second payment, you now have $200 left over (the balance of what you would’ve spent had you paid all 6 months up front). One twelfth of 1% of $200 is less than $0.17. So after two months you’ll have saved less than $0.37 doing it this way. Finishing up the months and you’ll have made $0.61 in interest over the 6 months.
And that’s if your bank even pays 1% interest. Most banks aren’t even paying that right now.
Look, I know every dollar counts, but I’d rather just pay it 6 months at a time up front and not have to worry about writing a check (or paying online) every month. Maybe if we were talking $10 difference or something then it would be worth paying it monthly, but as it stands now there’s really no benefit to doing so. And if your company charges you more to pay monthly then you should definitely pay it in 6 month segments if you can afford to do so.
The “nice guy:”
Nice guys are nice because they think it’s the best strategy. They want to be respectful and all that stuff and think they’re better than the a-holes who screw them and ditch them. Unfortunately most women don’t see it that way.
I actually think the “nice guy” might be a remnant of the past when dudes had to behave differently because you had to win over a woman and her family with manners and grace and show that you were a good provider. You know, because women couldn’t have jobs or leave the house without a chaperone. I’m sure that game was different. Those ladies were probably still most attracted to the highest value men, though. I doubt some super beta guy would do well in that situation, either.
It’s like “nice guys” are applying traits that only work for dudes who are already alpha.
If you’re a super wussy dude and cry a lot and write poetry, is that going to get you many chicks? Not really.
But if you’re a manly dude who happens to write poetry and occasionally cries at a sad movie, it will make chicks want you even more (the key point being that they wanted you already).
“Nice guys” get it wrong. Chicks want their outlaw boyfriend with forearm tattoos to listen to them and have emotional talks with them, but when their friendzoned guy friend listens to them and has emotional talks with them, it’s not going to make them attracted to him. There’s no attraction there in the first place.
The “nice girl:”
Not too tough or aggressive, but maybe too tomboyish. Initially, until they figure it out.
Maybe the real equivalent would be… type A girls who have introversion without introspection. The kind of people who have a 10-year schedule by the age of 18 involving 8 years of study in a particular field, and not because it’s a field they actually care about (though they may tell themselves they do), but because society happens to consider it respectable and it appears to offer the most financial security (in the very long term).
I mean a person who will in theory “be open to” romance, adventure, and opportunities off the beaten path; in practice they will watch an endless number of romantic comedies, study like a beaver, develop an eating disorder or three, and either implode somewhere along the beaten path, or manage to traverse the whole thing out of sheer inertia. The penultimate result is a very small amount of sexual experience by the age of 30, and eventually a guy who is not Mr. Right, but definitely Mr. Responsible, and also Mr. Available At The Time. The ultimate result is a person who thinks they have virtues like “realism” and “responsibility,” because that’s what you tell yourself as you drift through middle age to the grave never having had the self-awareness to take advantage of being alive.
My friend Josh was interested in this girl I am friends with named Angie.
Angie likes to go out and flirt with people.
Josh gets extremely jealous about this.
Angie likes to wear short skirts and revealing tops; she likes best of all to wear nothing. Or at least – as little clothing as she can wear in public, without getting yelled at by jealous, less attractive girls.
The funny thing is that because Angie likes attention, likes to attract indicators of interest from guys, likes to flirt, likes to get validation, likes to get proof of her social power over men, she is LESS likely to be picked up successfully by a guy than her milder-mannered sisters.
Even though she is meeting more guys and getting more advances, the odds of anything happening are lower for Angie than the odds are for other girls.
Josh sees a girl like Angie and thinks, “Wow, she has to be the ‘easiest’ girl ever. I’m in.’”
In fact, it’s because she is meeting more guys and getting more advances that she becomes, in a sense, immunized. Angie begins to blur all these men together. They become a single, changeless tune, a song of reverence, sung by horny club rats.
Whereas any – ANY – insecure librarian, to pick on a stereotype… any girl, that is, who is uncomfortable so much as letting her hair down in public will fall head over heels for the first guy to persistently attempt to go out with her. “Omgz, attention??” Thinks my librarian stereotype. “This must be love!”
It’s peculiar that Josh sees Angie’s extraversion as a threat, when in reality it makes her less available to the male population than her attention-avoiding lady friends.
Angie can handle guys. That’s what it is all about for her. Josh doesn’t get it, but it’s not his fault. He is just an idiot.
This message was brought to you by a bemused observer of social dynamics.
My gf is quite introverted
Fortunately, she doesn’t really like attention from other people. Like people will try to talk to her on the train (while she’s wearing her iphone headphones, no less) and she’s like “wtf r u talking to me for?”
My gf is super cynical, possibly even more so than I am, and so it would take someone at least as awesome as me to catch her attention, and statistically speaking that’s probably not going to happen as I’ve only met 3 or 4 people who are that awesome in my entire life (two of whom were girls, so they’re no threat when it comes to stealing my gf anyway).
This is just from my own personal experience. I am sure it is different for each of us.
Personally, I wouldn’t want my girlfriend to be with me because she doesn’t realize what she’s got. I would want her to feel extremely good about herself and STILL be with me… cuz then, yeah, I really am awesome
A guy who was into my girlfriend once told me, “Wow, you must keep her really insecure to keep her around.”
Ha. Blew my mind with that comment.
I really want to move to Europe, particularly Holland or Germany. I just don’t know the how to do it. I want to land a job first and have a company give me a work visa, but I don’t have ‘technical’ skills to justify. What i mean is a company needs to prove that they can’t find anyone within their country to fill the position and I don’t have a “unique” skill…
I’m in the “digital media” industry. Work with ad agencies/publishers in the local search field. I’m on the operational side – done ad trafficking (This is the only ‘tech’ experience i have – ad servers), account management and now I manage a team of account managers. Ideally, I would like to work in the same field (From what I’ve seen/read what I do here is still in its early stages over there so would be an asset) but i am completely open to the type of work…just not teaching English, joining the armed forces, stuff like that
I started to learn German, but its still in its infant stages. The reason I listed Holland was because it seemed like everyone knew English when I was there and I liked it over there. My dad worked in Holland a while back – but he’s an engineer and his company offered it. My company isn’t international..
I just started doing my research on the internet and people basically say to apply and mention that you’ll be in that country soon (say it was a planned vacation or something) to show how serious you are, etc, etc. Maybe they’ll give you a phone interview, then if they like you, you can interview when you’re there…but it looks like your chances are much higher if you’re in a high demand field and multi lingal (engineering/IT). I am bilingual but in English/Mandarin
A last ditch resort would be to improve my language skills, save money and just move over there (I’ve got a friend in Germany). i think you can stay 3 months without a visa…then test my luck finding a job. huge risk on this one.
Does anyone have any recommendations? or actually did this? I’m going through my resume, trying to develop a cover letter that shows why I am unique, etc but
I am a bit impulsive…if I could move this weekend, i would do it, but reality is…I’ll give myself by the end of the year to see if i can get over there.
Meh, I think there’s a time and place and method that requires some intervention that the other person check their frame. “Hey, whoa, I think you’re taking this way out of proportion….xyz” Sometimes we don’t realize when we’ve gone too far or taken something out of context and run with it or addressed/said something inappropriate or hurtful. I think there’s many wrong ways of doing this however, that will yield more negativity rather than good.
Again, are we in high school? If you have a partner with any integrity, this should be a non-issue. Being in the company of other women and flirting are two different things though.
Again, this should be a standard for either partner. Own up to your own stuff. If you didn’t follow through with something, own it. And accept that this uncomfortableness doesn’t have to repeat itself if you learn from it this time. “Hey I’m sorry, I messed up” goes a hell of a lot farther than some goofy flimsy excuse. Because there’s a muddy wobbly line between excuses and lies…..its hard to distinguish between the two.
This is a BIG DEAL to me. 9 times out of 10 you end up saying something hurtful that you didn’t mean just to be spiteful. Being upset or mad is one thing, but yelling and speaking out of turn and insulting or being mad/sarcastic to intimidate or manipulate is unacceptable to me. You have every right to feel what you feel, but you don’t have any right to talk down to me, yell at me, raise your voice at me, call me names, god forbid accost me physically. It serves no purpose and no gain in terms of problem solving. If you’re mad, cool the down then come talk to me. It doesn’t mean you’re not in need of validation, but once you’ve cooled down a bit, you’re clearer headed and more likely to problem solve effectively without hurting the other person unnecessarily. And for gods sake never have important conversations/problem solving attempts/arguments while either or both parties are intoxicated. Wait until you’re sober to have the conversation.
If you can keep your cool in a work situation for example, showing restraint and what have you, you should damn well be able to do the same where it matters most, your loved ones. If you can’t, then perhaps you need to look within yourself to see what’s the problem with that equation.